Do not worry my friend. I could never feel the thing kick either. You maybe able to later.
Read the articles on this site. Get romantic and tell her what you are feeling. Go shopping together. She is feeling protective and you are feeling excluded. Try not to get too worried about it.It is normal and will change. She may be feeling scared so be supportive and understanding as well as excited and I am sure she will let you in!
Good luck mate and keep posting if its tuff. We have all been through it and it gets a lot easier-HONEST!!