My girlfriend is 15 weeks now and we dont live together and cant see eachother much due to work and raising money for the baby first off i would like to thank this site for waking me up abit cos when we first found out i was telling my gf what to do like doctors and finding a place and so on and she kept getting upset until i read the bit on this site which says i should not pressure her just be there for her and support her which i have done which has kept here happy for the past couple of weeks but now she thinks i am too nosey and controlling cos i ask her wheres she going and whats she up to and now she is in a big huff with me saying i dont want her going out, complaining she cant do anything without me giving her permission or knowing
As to her asking where she is going and what she is doing perhaps a different issue. You don't say how old you guys are.If you are pretty young she may feel a bit trapped because she know sthat the "freedom" she has will not be there in 7 months from now. I was once told by my wife's aunt that once you become a mum you will always be a mum.
I know the same goes for dads but hey we don't carry them around and frankly until its born all you here are just the nagging and whining.
Try and be chilled about it all. Dam hard I know but if you guys are cool with each other then try and give her a bit of room if she needs it. You know it's that being cool approach when deep down you want to know everything she does.
You might also find that you are also a bit full on. She is carrying your kid and suddenly you naturally feel very protective. That's pretty much a normal feeling. I felt like secret service when I took my misses shopping at 3 months. Touch her accidentally and I would have dropped them where they stood. Verty uncool but now as a dad of 2 I know that to be pretty normal.
If you guys are tight and getting on say how you feel. It's a great but tough journey but neither of you know, especially if this is your first, what the other is thinking. A great journey but dam daunting to.
I hope things sort out. Some of the blokes on here seem to be pretty level headed. It seems really quiet at the mo though on this site. I suspect that all the sensible ones are suitting on a beach somehwere.
Good luck mate stay in touch!
