Go on my son, not firing blanks eh! Never a doubt you reply (although secretly you prayed all would be well). An awesome event that can be exciting to all those involved. She may want you to give a formal announcement to family first. You may want to blurt it out to the lads over a celebratory curry. Either way this should be a great moment, but timing is perhaps more important than you may think. Are you aware of the “crucial” first 12 weeks? (see below) Hell, why would you be? Some of us here definitely weren’t. Indeed some of our best mates knew the news before the testing kit was packed away.
What we think is important is that you take five minutes to breathe first and talk with your partner to see what she wants to do. She may want the parents to know first and she may want to break it to them face to face, it is after all quite a big thing this being pregnant malarkey. The top tip we guess, is if you are too excited or overcome and do blurt it out, swear that individual to secrecy until your partner has announced the pending arrival her way (or at least let her think she has!).

We hope that this will be an awesome time for you both. It is a time when everyone can share in your impending doom, we mean joy, and your mates, who are dads, can give you that knowing look that your life, quite literally will never be the same again. Indeed it won’t.

You should however be aware that the highest risk of a miscarriage is in the first 12 weeks (10% to 30% in the first ten weeks of pregnancy). It is therefore common that people wait for the first 12 weeks to pass before saying anything. 12 weeks is also about the time when you can expect your partner to have her first scan and hopefully the first medical nod that your baby is doing ok. (For further info on scans click here). You may decide
that you want close family or mates to know so that if things do go wrong you have a network of support. It may be that your wife is suffering from morning sickness or that she is no longer drinking any booze when she is with family or friends that people actually guess. Either way if you have discussed things with your partner you will both be giving the same explanation truthful or not. Try using a small fib which may take the pressure off at this time, such as she is taking antibiotics.

If you are unfortunate enough to suffer a miscarriage we hope that our article will be of some assistance and maybe comfort to you. Click here.